The issue isn't how to improve yourself but becoming more aware of what's affecting you. That awareness creates alignment between your behavior and desired outcomes.
I understand change as a beautiful, honest, and profoundly self-compassionate process that begins with good questions.
Here are the ones I'm using for reflection.
- What had I hoped to accomplish in 2024?
- What made it difficult?
- Am I willing to change the parts of my life that create friction?
- Is it still important to me?
- What did I accomplish in 2024, and what circumstances allowed for that?
- What did I learn about myself this year that's new or much clearer?
- How will I use that newfound clarity going forward?
- Did I compromise what I value to appease others, and how do I feel about that now?
- Where did I use consumption as a salve for loneliness, anxiety, or stress?
- What are some concrete steps I can take to address the loneliness, anxiety, or stress so that I stop creating triggers for self-soothing?
How to work with me:
- Learn to make real food–without recipes, gadgets, or hours of prep.
- Take my sugar course đźŤ
- Individual coaching sessions (one or three).
- Join the Weight Loss For Life program.
- Hit reply and ask me a question!
The reads that blew my mind a little in 2024.
There are paywalls for some. Worth it.
- The secret life of people with high self-control is THE read of the year. Accepting that willpower isn't real is when your life can really begin. I ask my program participants, "Are you putting yourself in environments designed for consumption and then relying on your aspirational self?" Well, are you?
- Emotional health is often overlooked this time of year, but I believe it is the key to any change. Here's a superb list of what that means.
- I must've read this piece on attending to the foundations twenty times. It's genius. People often don't understand that they're attempting to skip foundational learning when they follow a diet or other strict protocol. You can't back your way into real change.
- Why Cooking At Home Is An Act of Resistance is too good. I felt this so deeply. She talks about community, convenience, dependence, and the corporate takeover of food itself. Cooking is how I was able to reject diet culture. Rebellion indeed.
- There is a direct link between eating and chronic disease. In other words, what do we do more chronically than eat? I made the direct connection this year, which makes the importance of consuming real food at most or every meal clear.
- This unbelievably gorgeous and heartbreaking story on homelessness shook me to my core. I've never read anything like it.
The small things that we do just to see if there’s even an ounce of hope left are also the source of hope itself. They fuel the mind and heart, reminding us that even in our worst condition, we can still be someone: someone who tries and that’s good enough. We might not be someone great today, but we’re trying to be, and I think that’s beautiful. There is beauty in the becoming. Planting and watering your own seeds to become exquisite is worthy of admiration.
We can laugh at this, but our food system and collective understanding of health are worse than they were in the 1970s. Still crazy, amiright?
Talk soon,
Rebecca ✌️
